In case you haven’t noticed, I’m on the fast track to becoming a single crazy old cat lady. Around this time every year the token butch acquaintance proposes doing things together. Brunches, fundraising walks in Central Park or Chelsea Piers, free Pride events, Pride weekend parties and after parties, fireworks on the 4th of July, … More Following My Own Advice
From time to time I toy with the idea of writing a post about the NYC butch femme community, its presence or lack thereof, for all the readers who are in the middle of nowhere and look up to us with a mixture of pride and envy. We all sure love a party, but what … More Is The I In Community Silent?
Disclaimer: Notice how I wrote “mature” instead of “geriatric” above. I know some of you get offended by the word “geriatric.” I use it as a term of endearment so don’t get your boxers twisted up in a wad! I get a lot of flak from my friends about my dating deliciously geriatric butches. There … More The Allure Of Mature Butches
A very sui generis Butch Femme dictionary of all things butch femme compiled with help from friends, books, well-known butch/femme websites, Wikipedia, Facebook, twitter, and other sources. New terms will be added as I come across them or make them up (seriously, who had heard/read of “fotw” before meeting me?). Badonkadonk: the nodding movement a … More Butch Femme Dictionary
During one of my lunch breaks last summer I saw a hot geriatric butch and my first thought was: “thank God that I’m invisible because my hair is a mess and my handbag doesn’t match my dress. I would be mortified if any butch saw me looking like this.” That moment of great relief made … More Perks Of Being Invisible