How To Know If A Butch Likes You 2

Due to popular demand, right out of the mouths and emails from friends, acquaintances, and perfect strangers, here is how a butch or stone butch lets a femme know she is into her:

– Making eye contact OR not making eye contact

– Smiling a lot when she is around her

– Introducing herself to the femme if they don’t know each other yet

– Staying nearby and sneak peeking at the femme OR staying in the background and observing her from a distance

– Complimenting her without making it too obvious

– Touching her in a non sexual way – something small and almost unnoticeable like touching her arm, holding her hand, touching her hair when you help her take off or put her coat back on.

– Listening to what she says and making sure the femme knows she’s paying attention

– Telling a few jokes to find out if the femme enjoys her company and sense of humor

– Finding out her favorite mode of communication (chat, text, call, Skype) because she plans to communicate via that mode

– “Just because” text messages and phone calls

– Burning her a CD or downloading a playlist to her iPod

– Interacting with her friends to find out where the femme will be – this specific butch said she wants to know everything about a femme and everywhere she is going which, mmm, is kind of borderline stalking in my book.

– Asking one of the femme’s friends if she thinks the femme is into her – I do not recommend doing this for two reasons: (a) the femme’s friend may like the butch for herself or may not even be a real friend (b) the femme may not want to be with a butch who acts as if she were in high school (i.e. grow some balls!).

– Finding out common hobbies or pastimes so that she can plan ahead and ask the femme out on a date

– Making plans to go somewhere – something casual like a coffee date – to get to know her a little better before asking her out on a date (and that’s where this other butch lost me!)

– Making plans to go out with a group of butches and femmes so that she can observe the femme without the pressure of being on an official date

– Being extra careful to make sure she never embarrasses the femme in front of her friends, relatives or colleagues.

– Buying her drinks or dinner, flowers, or something she mentioned to show her she was paying attention

– Flirting openly

Which brings me (us?) back to square one: not knowing if a butch is into me unless she says so. I can’t know for sure if a butch likes-likes me unless she opens her mouth because most of my friends do all of the above and – to my knowledge – none of them wants to get in my pants.

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